One phrase that seems to be fashionable amongst the overweight is "emotional eater".I suppose they are stating that they eat when the experience an emotion. I am curious to know if there is any moments when they are experiencing the void of any emotion. Being human, I too , experience a wide range of emotions. However, I don't necessarily equate eating a cup cake as a way to negate the negative feeling.
Feelings can alter from one experience to the next. There are going to be times in our life when things happen that we may not be too happy about—but can recognize that emotions are temporary. And when they go you will still be here. Ready to experience the next one.
What you are feeling should not dictate what we are going to eat, or how we feel about ourselves, health etc.
Eating a bag of chips or cookies will not make the "feeling" go away. It may change your focus for ten minutes, but you can change your focus by engaging in any activity. The truth is covering your feelings by eating something unhealthy will only make you feel worse. You are causing yourself to be trapped in a cycle. Whatever is troubling you WILL change. But the consequences of what you choose to do about it may linger for much longer.
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Monday, October 24, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
LIVE AND LEARN
The other morning I was backing out of my office parking space and managed to hit a cement pole. The result was a very minor scratch on the front bumper. Immediately, I began to bombard my thoughts with what I "should" have been doing. It didn't change what happened. It only made me feel worse.
In that moment I recognized that this was similar to what some overweight people do. Let's say you were to binge and then afterward feel "bad" about it. Typically the "feeling bad" is followed by reprimanding oneself verbally. The cycle continues as one feels bad and continues to punish oneself. Never recognizing that this obsession is the problem.
Being healthy is not about beating oneself up after making a not so wise choice. It is the decision you will make afterward. What will you focus on?
Even if the damages to my car were more severe, my punishing myself would not change what already happened. What really was necessary is what I was going to do to rectify the situation and that I learned to pay more attention the next time.
In that moment I recognized that this was similar to what some overweight people do. Let's say you were to binge and then afterward feel "bad" about it. Typically the "feeling bad" is followed by reprimanding oneself verbally. The cycle continues as one feels bad and continues to punish oneself. Never recognizing that this obsession is the problem.
Being healthy is not about beating oneself up after making a not so wise choice. It is the decision you will make afterward. What will you focus on?
Even if the damages to my car were more severe, my punishing myself would not change what already happened. What really was necessary is what I was going to do to rectify the situation and that I learned to pay more attention the next time.
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