HOCUS POCUS IT'S ALL ABOUT FOCUS

Most of the time the greatest improvements are made when you concentrate on what you want and the way you want it to be instead. Regardless of what obstacles may come your way, focusing on how to change someone or something outside of yourself is time consuming. Ultimately it takes away from the one thing that does matter—what you want. I think it best to achieve is to let go of any judgements, be clear about your desires, and focus focus focus. All the magic you need is inside of you.

FEED YOUR BODY STARVE YOUR THOUGHTS

In order to change permanently you have to put yourself on a mental diet. Starve yourself of those old beliefs and thoughts. Fad diets afford only temporary change. Stats show that only 5% of people who have lost weight on a diet will remain slim. The rest return to their previous overweight condition. Why? Because the still indulge in old unhealthy thought patterns.

The most fundamental way to make permanent long-term change involves changing beliefs. When the inner mind of an individual changes, the rest of the body follows.

BE QUIET AND WORK OUT

Your best buddy may not be the best buddy to work out with. A great social friend is not always the right person to motivate you. It might be better to get with someone you admire or who will push you. Even better find someone who is more dedicated than you. It is better to have someone you feel you want to emulate or "be as good as."

Laughing and talking do not burn as much calories as working out. Consider the value of your work out time.If your work out buddy is more interested in chit-chat,arrange to socialize after. Your efforts effect your results.

TOXIC PEOPLE

When my client (at 62 year old man) began a great work out program and became obsessed with getting healthy. His neighbors told him he was being "controlled"--that he needed to seek therapy to go over his recent focus on health. Their fear was that he was brainwashed into a work-out program .
As a hypnotherapist and human being, I understand that we hang on to our present situations (even painful ones) but I am amazed at how hard we try to get others to hang on with us. Over 60% of the population is overweight, so it shouldn't be a surprise that when you go against the norm-you will encounter resistance from your co-workers and friends.
Remember that as you get healthier and slimmer, you may be a constant reminder of the choices your "out of shape" friends are not making. My advice: do NOT do what overweight people are doing. Choose what the healthy people are doing. Keep your focus on being healthy. The rest will follow.

LIKE TO DATE BUT DISLIKE THE WEIGHT

Eating out has become the number one past time. Whether it is with business partners, friends or date, it seems to be the easiest event to pick.
For those of us who enjoy dating, Sunday brunches with friends or have to make lunch meetings, there are some simple solutions. Practice pausing during the meal. Most of us are geuinely focused on the comversation and this may actually cause us to eat more. Begin to rehearse putting your fork down everytime you speak or listen. This will cause natural breaks. Also pause for a few moments between bites. This will give you a moment to process your food and consider whether you are still hungry.
Creating the habit of pausing will automatically slow you down and you will be less likely to consume more than you need.

WASTE FULL

Yes I know mom constantly told you to finish everything off your plate. And now it is your duty to not be wasteful with food. When I think of the word wasteful, I recognize that is exactly what it is—a waste full.
Don’t eat because someone else wants you to or because it’s a big holiday. Say, “I’d rather not. But thank you.” If you are concerned that you may hurt someone’s feeling s because you are declining their baking goods, know that those same people are not going to be around when you’re trying to lose ten pounds.
You can engage in many social activities, go out to restaurants, and have insistent mothers who cook---and yet still be healthy and thin. Why? Because you can say “I’m not hungry.” And “I don’t think I can finish this.” Eat when you feel hungry and stop eating when you are full. That’s it.
But the battle cry for some overweight persons is typically “I don’t want to deprave myself” or “you have to live”. May I suggest that if having a piece of pie is the highlight of your life, perhaps you need to re examine your life. And what are you really depraving yourself of? Think about it? What has over eating really cost you?